Trust me, it's stunningly difficult to "tell it like it is" so to speak. Sometimes. You don't want to hurt the person's feelings. But there are certainly ways to do the right thing (tell it like it is) as opposed to sugarcoating it and bullshitting and saying everything is fine and dandy. Let's be realistic people, it never is. You need to be alert, astute and on your toes at all times.
Pose things as a question, put your acting face on. Your gameface. Asking it politely, contemplatively, and ponder the answer shrewdly. Do they have a point?
Constructive criticism is a rough road to go down. You need to be conscientious of other people's feelings and realize it's very often not going to be taken well. So clean up your act and truly clarify what you are saying and meaning, so feelings are not hurt. But folks are bound to take things the wrong way, that's just us human beings. Oversensitive. I certainly can be. But I will listen. I will sure as fuck listen. Because as far as I'm concerned, everyone's got a point.
To be continued.
I would never tell anybody what they want to hear. I try to keep my opinions to myself, but if asked, I tell it like it is. I'm no therapist, nor am I cruel, but people do know where I stand.
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